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Why do couples look alike?

Love is a very strange feeling. Remember the first time you saw him. Most of you have probably thought, "Here, this is my man!" Perhaps this is neither love at first sight, nor the embodiment of romantic encounters in movies. It's just a magic spell of love that will condemn you later. I wonder why we think so, right? At that moment, we did not know the man, nor did we know his personality, nor did we know much about his appearance or behavior.
A feeling - it's just a very strange feeling, and you immediately realize that this is the person I've been waiting for. Interestingly, at the same time you have a strange feeling of nativeness. It's as if you've known that person for years, or you've seen him somewhere before, and you've been looking for him for a long time. Research shows that people are more likely to fall in love with someone who resembles either them or their opposite-sex parent (male, female, father). If you pay attention, you will see that most men's choices are involuntary, but women are like their mothers. Women, in turn, are interested in men who look like their fathers.
In 2013, an experiment was conducted: a group of people were shown a picture of the opposite sex (as a potential partner). However, the faces of the people in the pictures are either changed graphically by taking details from the face of the person participating in the experiment or from the facial features of a completely different person. Both female and male participants in the experiment initially found the image of their faces attractive. This means that someone who looks like us because our face is more native, dear and beloved to us, is also more beloved to us. Scientists also say that people prefer to have a relationship with someone from their region, close to the culture in which they live and grow up. Because similarities of opinion are very important for the sustainability of relations.
In modern times, when virtual relationships are developing and people are beginning to think differently, people may not prefer details such as being in the same region, speaking the same language, and having the same cultural heritage in love relationships. But love is still love, feeling is still feeling. In fact, science also says that opposing forces attract each other. But it seems that in love, this is not so much. No matter how much we change, how we think differently, how much we integrate into the world, we still want to share our lives with people who fit our worldview, our thoughts, our way of perceiving life. This is the product of our council. But there is also a similarity in appearance, and what is clear is that even though we are unconscious, we love someone who looks like us. Of course, there have always been and will be exceptions.
Studies show that in couples who have been together for many years, the physical and spiritual similarities begin to increase over the years. Character similarity arises from the mirror effect (people's assimilation and repetition of each other's characteristics). That is, a person begins to master the habits of the person he loves, even body language. Yes, yes, the person he loves. I don't know if scientists have studied this or not, but I think that love is very important in building a healthy and long-lasting relationship. Love is sharing. To share the "self" you have been in love with since birth and the "you" you found years later. Love is such a beautiful thing that you can even love suffering. So never be afraid to fall in love, love is great.
15 November 2020
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